My final guest post of the week was written by Belinda. Belinda currently writes at three different blogs: From a Mom’s View, Bella’s World, and sometimes at 2010 Economic Recession at the Sheldon’s. Belinda and I met several years ago when we were in the same Mom’s group. She now lives with her husband, three sons, one daughter, and two dogs in Texas. She is a working mother, and I honestly don’t know how she does it all!
Today’s my day to post on Sincerely, Jenni’s blog and I am very honored! I debated what to write about and decided that I have a little bit of information that could be helpful to all the people that read this blog! I have started going to a MOMS group on Tuesday mornings at my church. My group is learning about different personality types and how we can interact better with our loved ones, friends, and even strangers, simply by knowing what personality type each one has. I think knowing which one you and your spouse have is the first step. I will go into detail below on how to tell which you are by some generalized characteristics but know that you may fall into 2 categories. Here’s the breakdown…
Usually people tend to flock towards an opposite personality for a mate. Interesting huh? I remember my husband telling my that “we have nothing in common” early in our marriage. Now I know why he felt that way. I’m a Powerful Choleric with a Perfect Melancholy coming in a close second. My husband is more of a Popular Sanguine with a big pinch of Peaceful Phlegmatic. We are polar opposites and guess what? Dave Ramsey hit the nail on the head when he said, “If two people just alike get married, one of you is unnecessary.” So we embrace this and have learned to live peacefully for the most part, each bringing our strengths to the table.
Wanna take the test? Go ahead, I know you want to. And while you are at it, fill one out for your spouse.
PersonalityScoreSheet
(Note from Jenni: When you click the link, it takes you to a new page, then click the link again. The test will open up.)
If you meet a Popular Sanguine or you are one, here’s what you can expect:
They usually wear bright colored clothing, with some glitter maybe. They fear they will blend in to the crowd. They are theme dressers. You know the type. The one with a different Christmas sweater for every day in December. Their style may be a bit on the wild side. Their hair may be extreme in length or color. Their voice is loud and we usually want to “shhh” them. They are very playful and very uncomfortable with dead air. So they fill it up. They use open, grand gestures, touch, or “hold” their audience when talking to them. Seriously, they hold onto you when they talk to you so you can’t get away. They may appear cluttered because they don’t want to part with things that remind them of fun times, like photos, postcards, ticket stubs. They are open and energetic and have a tendency to tell everything about themselves. Here’s where the phrase, “TMI” came from. I suggest you not tell them secrets if you don’t want others to find out.
If you meet a Perfectly Melancholy personality, you can be sure to find this:
These people are conservative in dress, neat, and tidy. Their voice is quiet. Silence is Golden to them. Everything is on a “need to know” basis. They make a decision to retire one day and do it the next. Even their own spouses may not be aware of decisions floating around in their brains. Their posture is excellent. Hair is neat and close to the head. Gestures are discreet. They don’t like to touch people and are not quick to hug an old classmate they see in the grocery store. They are respectors of space. Everything has it’s place. Their inboxes are organized. They have locked drawers so no one can mess things up. They are the “fixer”. These people can not live without a schedule book. They are frugal. They save things too, may or may not be a pack rat. An organized pack rat though. They love electronic gadgets. Some may say they are rather dignified, serious, and analytical.
If you meet a Powerful Choleric, be on the lookout for this:
This group has no obvious clothing type. They believe in functional clothing. No fashion trends for them. Even their shoes are conservative. No hot pink 3 inch heels in their future. Their voice is strong and they use powerful words. These people use alot of gestures when talking, like finger pointing. They have a heavy fast walk. Everything is done for a purpose. When they walk into a room, they know why they are there and never have ask themselves, “what did I need in here again?” They get the job done at work. Their work space has no frills, no fluff…strictly functional. They have an intense presence . They want action and want power. They want it done NOW. Wants to be the leader and is very good at that role. Extremely dominant.
Lastly, if you meet a Peaceful Phlegmatic, you may not even know it. These are the hardest to detect. Here’s why:
You really can’t see noticeable traits when these people. It’s easier to see what they are NOT. They have casual clothing, jeans and sweatshirts in muted colors, loose fitting. They dress for comfort. They are low key with a tranquil paced speech. They have a dry humor. They are calm, lack of extreme. They’d rather sit than stand, and rather lay down than sit. Happy anywhere. Does everything they attempt really well but it exhausts them and they have to go lay down. They are good at doing things but sometimes lacks the drive to do it.
We all know people that fit these groups to a tee! We may even find that we have a little of each of these in us and that’s ok. We may have adapted over time to a few characteristics because of certain events in our lives. But until we find that underlying, dominant personality type that God created us to be, we will not live up to our full potential.
Thanks Jen for letting me use this forum to share the info I have learned with others. It’s been so much fun!
Belinda
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